|By Patricia Herlevi|
First thing you must know is to not suppress a mood or layer another mood on top of it. This reminds me of putting a band aid on a gaping wound. Second, know that moods pass and that all humans experience the spectrum of moods. Third, even though a mood doesn't feel good, it serves a purpose and has you tune into your mind-body-spirit so you can see what thoughts, feelings, or behaviors require a shift in consciousness.
I have covered this topic previously on Whole Music Experience so some of these tips and music selections will sound repetitive to some of you. And I would never tell someone not to feel their sadness or anger because some times we must ride through it to reach the opposite bank of an emotional river. If you are grieving a loss, use music to bring you relief but understand that the grieving process is necessary. And in addition to working with music, join a support group or seek professional counseling because these options give you other perspectives, validation and support.
Anger: I know few people who handle anger in a healthy way. We either suppress anger which comes out later as self-sabotage or inappropriate behavior such as road rage or bullying. Or we express our anger with violence. But anger tells us that something or someone violated us and it's our body's way of telling us that someone trespassed beyond our boundaries. Some of us were told as children to repress our anger. "Good girls don't get angry." Want to bet.
Start by listening to Beethoven's 5th Symphony and listen to the entire four movements (it's a short symphony). In the first movement, the hero is called to a quest as fate knocks at the door. The energy is angry and tense similar to receiving bad news of some kind that burns through us. Then the next movement, the hero picks up the gauntlet and rides through his anger by taking action that leads to triumph in the final two movements.
You can also listen to didgeridoo music (solo instrument) which breaks up heavy energy such as anger or clears away fragments. I would listen to the instrumental track for at least 20 minutes and then follow up with singing bowls (either the actual bowls or a recording) for the heart and liver (since we store our anger in our liver).
Grief & Sadness: Start with the saddest or most melancholic songs you know. And allow yourself to sob. Get the sadness up and out. If you're grieving the loss of a relationship, listen to a song such as Carol King's "It's Too Late", which even has the right chord structure to bring the sadness up and out. You can also listen to theme or soundtrack music from a tragic movie. Now this might sound counter intuitive, but you're going to work your way up from sadness and grief to relief and then hope. And depending on the depth of the loss, you'll have to do this each day until you find release from the despair and helplessness and even anger that grips at you.
So maybe you start with Carol King, then you find nostalgic music that resonates with your mood (but stay away from anything that is hateful or revengeful). Some of you would rather listen to classical music or jazz ballads which work as well.
Start with melancholic music then move to Chopin's nocturnes or perhaps a sad Brazilian jazz piece. Then listen to songs that are hopeful such as Charlie Chaplin's "Smile" or Louis Armstrong's "What a Wonderful World." Then end with singing bowls for the heart chakra either the actual bowls or a recording of them. Harp and flute music also brings relief.
Fear & Anxiety: The best antidote I know for fear is humor. So find songs that you know will make you laugh, especially if you sing along with them. For some reason I'm thinking of Weird Al Yankovic, but you can even listen to music from a Broadway musical comedy. I also like children's songs or songs from The Sound of Music or Mary Poppins. You might even sing the Alphabet Song or a Beatles' song if that gets your mind off your fears. Or listen to lullabies or a Chopin nocturne.
If this is just a passing fear or anxiety, then music will prove helpful. However, if you have chronic anxiety, get medical attention.
I'm not a music therapist or sound healer. I'm channeling this post and sharing what I've learned from using music to shift my moods (which found roots in depression and anxiety). If you find that you have serious issues with grief, sadness, depression, anxiety, or anger, please seek the help of a qualified music therapist or sound healer. I'm a strong believer in music therapy and engaging with an expert who has studied in this field and who has had success with clients.
Despite that we live in a world ruled by fear and anger, we can find our calm center by listening to the right music for our emotions. It's also a good idea to turn off the news and spend more time exploring musical choices that bring you relief and allow you to shift moods. The more we stay centered in love, the better chance we have of creating peace in the world. Music offers the magic carpet ride that helps us transcend our moods.
Also check out books that explore the brain and music. And check out Jeffrey Thompson's brainwave recordings.